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Celebrate Mary's Life

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Friends are Invited to a
Celebration of Life

to Remember Mary Barney

baker, cook, musician, friend
4 p.m., on Sunday, Oct. 11th
at Blueberry Cove Camp, Tenants Harbor, Maine

All are welcome. Please bring a pot-luck dish, preferably one with ties to Mary (from her cookbook or one that you've enjoyed with her). BYOB.

There will be some prepared remarks but also free time for all to
share memories of Mary. A slide show will also be run. Digital
pictures of Mary can be sent to jim@jimdugan.com by Oct. 5 at the latest.

Bring musical instruments for music and dancing. Bring items knitted by Mary.

In lieu of flowers, donations in Mary's memory may be made on the day or can be sent to either

Kno-Wal-Lin Hospice House
c/o Kno-Wal-Lin
170 Pleasant Street
Rockland, ME 04841

or

The Mary Barney Memorial Garden
(to be sited at at the Trailing Yew)
Donations may be sent to:
The Mary Barney Memorial Garden
c/o The Trailing Yew
Monhegan Island, ME, 04852

Directions:

Blueberry Cove Camp is in Tenants Harbor. From Thomaston at the Knox Mansion (Montpelier), turn off Rt. 1 and take US Route 131 South, towards St. George/Tenants Harbor. Follow Rt. 131 through the town of Tenants Harbor. Continue to follow Rt. 131 toward Port Clyde (The road veers to the left).

Take a left turn onto Harts Neck Road, a short way after the ball field (10.7 miles from Rt. 1). Blueberry Cove Camp is located at 22 Blueberry Cove Road. The driveway is on the left about 0.5 miles down Harts Neck Rd.

If anyone needs overnight accommodations contact Deb Small at 978-779-6860.

We hope to see you there as you too were part of Mary's family. If you can't make it but would like to share memories, email them to captains@schoonermaryday.com

Comments

Curt and Jan said…
Captains Barry, Jen and the Schooner Mary Day family:

We were deeply saddened to hear of the untimely passing of our dear friend and shipmate Mary Barney. So much can be said about Mary, but in an attempt to remain true to her spirit, suffice to say that Mary Barney brought joy and happiness to all with whom she came into contact; through her extraordinary culinary skills, her heartfelt musical talent, and most of all, simply through her presence.

We know that Mary treasured her time aboard the Schooner Mary Day, and are sure that from this day forward she too will be remembered as a “sailing legend.”
September 28, 2009 at 10:55 AM
Lois said…
What a beautiful picture of our Mary.
September 29, 2009 at 9:00 AM
Anonymous said…
Dear Captains Barry, Jen, and the Mary Day Family,
I share the feelings of all those who are all ready missing Mary’s physical presence. But she will always be “aboard” the Mary Day and sailing with us as long as she remains in our hearts. It took a few times for me to get through the Sept. 24th blog. It has taken me some time to write this; too many tears. Not for Mary, but for us who have known Mary for some time and know there will be no new memories coming.
For the last few days of September, and the first few days of October since 1998, I’ve been awaken from restful sleep by the aroma of Captain’s Grog filtering through my cabin around 4:30 in the morning. As the aroma mixed with the cool early morning air in my cabin my body would finally catch up to the smile on my face, being task oriented I had to get out of my warm cocoon, go topside and make sure at least one head was operating. On my way out I always quietly walked over to Mary and wished her a good morning, she did the same for me. I’m going to miss waking up like that, what she added to my sail I can not put fully into words. I know things will go on, they always do, but I sure do wish Mary would be there to greet me in the morning. She just set the right tone for the day with her cheerful smile each early morning.
I thank you Barry and Jen for “interviewing” Mary and bringing her into our lives. She loved the Mary Day, was always a lady, and looking back I can’t think of a better way for her to spend the last 12 years of her life. There will always be “the two Mary’s” in my heart.
BC
September 30, 2009 at 6:14 AM
Unknown said…
Jen, Barry, Sawyer, Nadie and the extended Mary Day family:

I very much would like to attend the celebration of Mary's life but alas time and distance prevent that. I will celebrate Sunday 10/11 by cooking and baking from "Ring That Bell."

Have a great time. Shed a tear or two. Share some laughs. Let's all remember Mary for the wonderful person she was. I weep for our loss of a great woman.
September 30, 2009 at 10:48 AM
Unknown said…
We arrived in Rockland last Friday, the 25th, and though we had no agenda, we wanted to go to Camden to have breakfast and watch the Mary Day return from her latest adventure. After breakfast, we walked down to the dock to find that you were going out, not coming in. It was then that we learned of Mary’s passing. The shock was wrenching, to say the least, and Brenda and I could not get her off our minds for the rest of the week. It didn’t seem to matter what beautiful sight we were seeing, thoughts of Mary entered in. Mary was probably one of the best "cooks" we've ever met, and it was a joy to see her each time we returned for another sail on the Mary Day. While I'm not much of a cook, I have made her Macaroni & Cheese a number of times with great success. It's now time to get the book out and learn to cook some more of Mary's recipes.

We were merely acquaintences brought together by the circumstance of being passengers on the Mary Day, while the two of you were a very real part of her life. You were both blessed to the extreme for having had her, and she, for having you.

We'll miss her memorial service, but we will be with you all in spirit.

Eric & Brenda Bergeson
October 2, 2009 at 2:33 PM
Capt. Brenda said…
I remember when we had the captain's meeting aboard the Mary Day before the Great Schooner Race. Mary's scones (and her smile!) were always the highlight; soft, warm, melt-in-your-mouth. Although we were not close, Mary always took the time to wave, smile, or say hello. Just being near her, you could sense the "old soul" that you made reference to.

She will be missed and I'm afraid I will also miss the celebration of her life this Sunday. I will be at Haystack but I will take a moment shortly after 4:00, walk to the shore overlooking the Deer Isle Thorofare that she surely sailed a hundred (or more!) times, and cast free a wreath of twigs and bright fall leaves in honor of her.

My thoughts are with you.

Capt. Brenda
Schooner Isaac H. Evans
October 8, 2009 at 4:04 AM
Captains Barry and Jen said…
For those folks who would like to see the beautiful slideshow of Mary:
http://schoonermaryday.com/mary/

she was amazing and will always be in our hearts.
October 25, 2009 at 9:13 AM
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